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Title: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Vitiated on June 04, 2008, 11:58:53 am
Well, I'm an on and off player, and this is because whenever I am on, I feel very lonely D:



Is this the new way of PS? ):
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Colinb on June 04, 2008, 12:47:05 pm
Some people are, not everyone is self-obsessed you just need to find the right people, ever tried the taverns?
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Vitiated on June 04, 2008, 01:23:43 pm
No, but I'll give it a go (:
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Mathy Stockington on June 04, 2008, 01:29:09 pm
I do hope that our players would warmly welcome you to our community. 
/me welcomes Vitiated to our family and looks forward to seeing you in game.
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Pizik on June 04, 2008, 02:45:13 pm
/me hands out a hug

"Some of us are still friendly ;o)"
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: NirAntae on June 04, 2008, 03:05:13 pm
Feel free to drop me a /tell if I'm on when you are, name's Myshka in game.  My beginning experience was very different...  people were helpful to me from the start, and within a day or two I was pretty involved in RP.  Just bad luck, I guess.  :-/
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Candy on June 04, 2008, 06:23:54 pm
If you spot Monala or Asailie running around, they'll likely say hello. And the latter needs to garner all the support she can get for GRAH, anyway :P
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Lolitra, Celorrim Purrty Twins on June 04, 2008, 08:40:31 pm
Why do people go on about 'oh I am bored' or 'No one ever plays with me'... it is just so...   

What I will say is that I have tried new characters of different types now [apart from my three actual RP characters..] and have always found RP...   never been ignored when I start to speak or act with others.  I have only been 'bored' when I stand 'waiting' for someone else to start the work.

I have only had issues with a few being 'unfriendly' in the years I have played - but that is a sad fact of life - there will always be one who says nasty things just because they don't get what they want and when they want it.

The final thing I will say is that some might be 'causious' with strangers due to the worry of what the player behind the character's intentions are...   something we all are mindful of at varying degrees.

It is sad some find themselves so self convinced that there is a deminishing RP community just because players move on for what ever reason.  It is a fact of life - we all move on from things we used to do, for many different reasons that life throws at us - it does NOT mean it is a failing of those that are left behind.
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Hrothbert on June 05, 2008, 02:49:23 am
Feel free to talk to any member of Pax Amor or myself we are all friendly and willing to help.
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Vitiated on June 05, 2008, 10:59:36 am
Ahh, I'm glad I've had a bit of feedback (:


I always am tempted to go up to someone and talk with them but I worry that they'll just tell me to leave them alone.  X-/
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Hrothbert on June 05, 2008, 02:27:13 pm
Like was said by Lolitra there are a few that will but it is either their IC attitude and you can roleplay with them around that or they really are jerks just dont' let a few bad responses deter you Many many people will talk to you and enjoy the experience.
And if they answer rudely don't take it personally because there are also a few NPC's that will tell you to shove off or leave them alone so understand that it is a large community and so like real life has the potential for every personality.
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Dajoji on June 05, 2008, 05:16:35 pm
In general people in PS will respond well to RP. We'd be in serious trouble if the we didn't. The environment does help. People by the furnace, camping mobs or mining might ignore you but then there are places where people just chill out, like the taverns and such. Try there. I'm sure you'll see we can be very welcoming.
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Zan on June 05, 2008, 06:19:28 pm
Why do people go on about 'oh I am bored' or 'No one ever plays with me'... it is just so...   

I think there is a golden rule related to complains about others ...

Look at oneself first! ;)

That being said .. do you feel lonely because everyone avoids you like you have the plague or do you feel lonely because you are too shy to make first contact? Or anything in between?

Don't have to answer, just think about where the real cause lies.
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Lolitra, Celorrim Purrty Twins on June 05, 2008, 11:39:32 pm
Lolitra just hopes she is not the honey pot that SWATS the flies that swarm about her...  heheheh... feed on my creative honey, it could be fun for you... hehehe
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: zorbels on June 06, 2008, 12:24:00 am
Quote from: Lolitra, Celorrim Purrty Twins
It is sad some find themselves so self convinced that there is a deminishing RP community just because players move on for what ever reason.  It is a fact of life - we all move on from things we used to do, for many different reasons that life throws at us - it does NOT mean it is a failing of those that are left behind.
/me claps

Well said Lolitra! In this very stament of yours I agree completely.

I didn't leave this community for a year because I didn't like the game, or the people leaving, or the rumor that RP was dieing, or the PlaneShift staff. I left because I have a family and my life does not revolve around a game. I just didn't have enough time to play. I could play all the time but that would be very unhealthy, and at one point I think I played to much. If you play the game constantly then of course you are going to get bored and possibly even move on, or worst yet stay around and become a whiner. All in all I love this place whether I have time for it or not. I love the community and the game. It is a shame that others let these negitive rumors and peoples negitive opinoins sway their own opinions and thoughts on the game and not actually open their eyes to the bigger picture. 

Quote from: Vitiated
Well, I'm an on and off player, and this is because whenever I am on, I feel very lonely D:

Is this the new way of PS? ):

The tavern is a great place to find RP as Colinb suggested.

Another suggestion I have is make a small RP. Perhaps you lost your familiar or he/she was stolen and you need help to find it. You could use the Hydlaa Plaza to find other players willing to help you find your pet. Maybe you could even reward them for finding your pet and bringing the evil doers to justice. (This is only a example) Another thing you can do is stand near a bigger crowd of people and listen into their RP. You might find just the right time to join in with your character if the RP interests you. I found that doing that always gave me more ideas on what I could do for a RP. 

 :) My adivce is to not wait around for RPer's to come to you, but for you to seek them out. This community is very friendly and rarely have I seen the players who think their "bleep" don't stink. Just strike up a conversation with some of the players. You might be surprised where they lead you in Rping.

Welcome to PlaneShift and I hope you enjoy your time back!  \\o//
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: NirAntae on June 06, 2008, 12:24:16 am
Unfortunately, shyness can be a major blockage to RP.  If you just sit there, no one knows you're trying to initiate RP.  There is a middle ground, which the mechanics of PS, whether intentionally or not, makes even easier, at least since the /introduce got taken out.

/ me looks over at XXXXX.

Where XXXXX = the name of the char you'd like to try and initiate an RP with.  The nice thing about PS is this will catch their attention even better, since a line with your char's name in it shows up a different color (assuming you spelled it correctly!  hehe)
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Shaman on June 06, 2008, 01:30:48 am
I've actually had a decent time joining in on the "action." :) It just depends on who you talk to and when, in my opinion.
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: BLARG!!! on June 12, 2008, 03:07:31 am
i found that i was a lonely person until i just said hi to someone and if they responded i keep the conversation going and sometimes became friends with that person so saying  hi  is a good way to make friends  :lol:
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Xillix Queen of Fools on June 12, 2008, 03:49:24 am
/me stares at his belly button  :love:
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Prolix on June 12, 2008, 04:15:14 am
What a navel idea! Have you ever been to sea, Xilly?  :oops: :offtopic:
Title: Re: Is everyone just too self-obsessed nowadays?
Post by: Lolitra, Celorrim Purrty Twins on June 12, 2008, 07:56:36 am
Some people who claim bored, or being ignored, are sometimes to blame themselves for being impatient...   some Role players take a little time to type their responses...   by the time they have - which might even reach a few seconds, that person has decided 'your ignoring me.. I feel loney AGAIN!' and troops off with out even considering what they have just done... it is in fact quite the mind set of a fast food, throw away society that we live in - the 'I WANT IT NOW' and 'IF IT IS JUST A LITTLE LATE - I'M OFF'
perhaps?