So, are you saying that oyu have a background story, then if it doesnt work after quite a while of trying, you then scrap it and go for another?
You would have to delete your Char of course because you would end up with the old story coming back to haunt you.
I would never suggest scrapping your background story. My god as a newbie how much of a story could you have anyway? You are living the story as you role-play. Otherwise if not you have everything planned which means you are not a true role-player. You are just a puppet master with strings.
I can't see what a back ground story has to do with role-playing with others in the community anyway. I mean your background story is just that, some of your history already taken place for you to chat with people on the server about to give them an idea of your characters personality. A starting point basically. The role-play begins when you start adding to the story. I have lived many role-play stories in Yliakum as Zorbels, I don't just go with my background story. If you are trying to role-play your back ground story and not getting a response to it then my suggestion would be come up with a (I call them) sub story. A little out line of a very small role-play. (This next suggestion I did once) Maybe your groffel got stolen and you are searching for it. So you start to ask the people in Hydlaa if they have seen it. This opens up a conversation and a possible adventure in searching for this groffel. Maybe one of the players says "Yes I have seen it in ojaveda" well because you are supposably new you can explain you don't know the way. This opens up a position for someone to play the travel guide, etc. Then the role-play begins and before you know it, it was bedtime hours ago and your eyes are bloodshot.
I can understand your disappointment with people not just jumping to help you. But seriously it isn't the end of the world and there are bound to be days were no one is around to help or the people on the server are in huge role-plays and don't want to break them to bring a newbie into it. Don't let one time discourage you.