a book hunt.

[steuben]

okay, i'm a going book hunting. from what i've done so far this will be a tricky one.

recent events have led me to hunt for this book. now that i can actually talk about it, some near fool restriction my brother and his girlfriend placed, i need some help in the hunt.

i'm looking for a book on uncling... uncleing... however it is spelt, a book on being the brother of the parent. there are any number of books on parenting. but this seems to be such a hard hunt.

while in theory i could read through and adapt some of the parenting books, and perhaps i should for when it becomes my turn. i'm feeling lazy and want someone to have writen and thought things through for me.

if it includes things on how to be the cool uncle i'm game for it as well. though i think i know a couple of books that i can pull from for that.

[Pizik]

Be a friend to their offspring, and don't comment on their parenting.I think that is all there is to it really. Would be hard to fill a book with that (although I have read books with less content in the past)

[Waylander]

I could write a book about it but I hardly think that would help... would probably get you in jail though... Or disowned by your family at the very least.  On that note, don't sell drugs to your nephew!

I'll try to hunt something down

[Parallo]

The Uncle Book: Everything You Need to Know to Be a Kid's Favorite Relative (Paperback)

Searching the term uncle on Amazon gave this as the first result.

[Bamko]

My personal experince:

Run things by the parents first, Example, instead of buying that game they will never be allowed to play anyway, talk to the parents (you are probably a sibling to one of them, eh?  talk to them anyway) you can instead find out nice little things like things they want but that the parents either can not, or will not get for them, but would not mind you getting for them.  Think of it like this, what better tool to have as a parent than be able to not over endulge your child with something, but allow their uncle to get it for them.  so next time the next big game is out " I dunno...what does Uncle Brian say about that, he seems to know more about such things..."  Of course it helps to have the extra tria to drop on such things.  it then becomes easier for them to "take it away for a bit' if they did not just give it to them.  "I do not know, I know Uncle Brian thinks you are ready for that pellet gun, but you need to really show responsiblity.... Tell you what, I will show you how to use it, and if you keep your grades up, keep your room clean, and never ever point it at anything you do not intend to shoot, including animals, I will consider letting you use it unsupervised... now lets go out and I will show you how to use it safely"  Sounds better if you had not just bought it for them for their birthday.. but from an uncle... sure.  better to let the uncle (or aunt) be the over-indulgent one.

Also, you want to be there for fun stuff.  When they visit, offer to take them fishing/looking for snakes/to a local event, etc.  Parents would love some alone time IF they can trust you will bring them back in one piece.  Again, you can do things the parents do not have time for.  You take them fishing, for example, and they can bother you about fishing again.  Their dad takes them fishing and he will be asked to go every weekend.  If parents doing it every weekend it is not a problem, but if they do not like it... can be a real sticky wicket.

Hope that helps. 

[Eathon]

Just look lively. 

[Vannaka]

Kids love explosives.  That's rule #1. 

[Mathy Stockington]

"uncling" is correct.

My best suggestion is to never do anything the parents would not approve of, ever!!

[verden]

i'm looking for a book on uncling... uncleing... however it is spelt, a book on being the brother of the parent.

Avuncular. You seek guidance in things avuncular. As opposed to you seeking avuncular guidance, in and of itself.

Uncling is not correct, it is not even a word.

[Mathy Stockington]

[Uncling is not correct, it is not even a word.

So you made me curious to see if you are right. You are wrong.

Definition: Uncling
Intransitive verb
1. To cease from clinging or adhering.

Source: Webster's Revised Unabridged Dictionary
 
That also makes me wrong because:

Definition: Uncle
Noun
1. The brother of your father or mother; the husband of your aunt.

Therefore 'Uncle' is a noun and cannot be made into a verb.

[verden]

Oh, okay, its a word... although kind of a clumsy one.

[steuben]

well... given the terror that we, me and my brothers and my folks, have inflicted on other parents... the one peice thing well... let's just say you know that sign "unattended children will be given a shot of ecspresso and a puppy" kind of like that only we start there.  i figure the don't undermine the parents thing is a given.

but besides, what parent would disappriove of making popcorn in the drier or jello in the washer  it's a great way to do it in bulk and you get nice flavours too.