The positive/negative effects of a families actions depend on the way an individual can cope with the situation. Everyone has their own way of dealing with things. There can be completely different outcomes of an identical situation from two similar families.
I am the youngest of 5 and played many diferent roles throughout the years, from the outcast to the pillar. As a chubby little kid with a speach impediment my siblings were always ready to come to my aid in public, at home was a different story
We, just like any other family had many disputes between us, and our parents usually let us resolve it ourselves, and being the youngest this didnt always work out in my favore
I concider myself very lucky to have the brother and sisters I do, there is nothing we wouldnt do for eachother and its always been that way. There are less than a handfull of times where they have tried to 'butt in' my personal affairs, and with a simple discussion it was quickly over.
My fiance's family is very different, and confuses me to no end. She is the youngest of 8, and there is a 10 year gap between her and the youngest son. They have absolutly no regard for one another, thankfully my fiance has distanced herself from them. They steal from eachother, lie to others about their family just to create trouble, sleep with eachothers husbands........... Jerry Springer would have a field day with this bunch. My fiance had a 50K trust fund from when her father passed away, and her older sister was the executor of it. Thats right you guessed it, every cent was gone by the time she was 18, LOL she didnt even know about it untill she was 30
So Neko, I think a little 'butting in' on a public forum is not that big of a deal, but thats just my opinion
