[Just for my two trias...
A_Traveller, you know I adore you and adore playing with you. And it's great that you want to make all these RP events for people to participate in.
However, the reason they keep failing, is you push a little too far, assume a little too much. If he were 'just a madman' saying these things, it would be fine. But saying that he comes from an entire village and history that feels this way, and you butt head with the official setting.
Likewise with the mercenaries... if it had been a group of say, ten or fifteen, who came looking for XXXX and XXXX, it would have been fine. But instead you had a whole 'army', killed a child publicly, and said you were from or supported by the government... thus upsetting many people.
Keep making RP events, by all means! Just drop the scale a little bit. Let things -build- to that point.]