At the risk of sounding argumentative I think I do know the bridge of what happens when people from different sides of the equation can't get along. Because I tend to role play from both vantages I've seen people, intentionally or not, make the implication that one sort of role play is in fact somehow
better than another. This is a vastly incorrect assumption. Another is to say that one or the other is more
mature. The fact that you may enjoy a role play involving lots of action sure as
hell in no way makes you or your role play any more or less mature than wandering around bantering about recent character couplings or divorces. Likewise, simply because you dislike having direct character opposition as a consistent flow does not necessarily mean your role play is going to be any less full-filling. Tone in text is essentially non-existent, and I think in many cases people might say things (I know I have) that sound as though it's meant in a mean spirited fashion, when it is not. What might be important when commenting on a type of role play you don't necessarily like would be a phrase like, "I prefer," or "I enjoy," rather than specifying either realm as flat or boring. Using those terms instantly makes the other party think someone is disregarding them, likely with little to absolutely zero knowledge of what the role play might actually involve because it's in the opposite sphere of interest, and they haven't even bothered to try.
I would agree with Taya in that because this isn't a verbal discourse, wording can be important. Of
course not everyone is going to agree with one another, frankly such a world would probably be a rather boring one. We'd all be the same. Imagine that.
* Mariana Xiechai shudders.
I appreciate as well that Illysia is attempting to do something that is sorely needed: cultivate some more Role Play.
Personally, I think that the best advantage of this thread so far has really been discussing people's specific interests. Knowing likes and dislikes in a more dissected manner allows a person to know what another is comfortable with. That doesn't mean that lovers of plot and action can never enjoy Role Play with those who prefer sociological study-type things or discourse, but it might indicate a sort of give and take in certain areas. Toning down violence a touch, or giving a little more emotion into more "every day" happenings. Of course the aspect, again, is enjoyment, and such bending wouldn't have to be constant. But that simple enough interaction can create ripples, enough that there doesn't have to be select role play 'cliques' because of a difference in interest.
I'll try to provide an example. Take for instance Roled's wedding role play. Roled, from what I understand, wanted it to be more sedate. He wanted to have a situation where there was no killing, violence, et cetera. As he set up the role play and put his effort into it, for that instance, it probably would have been cordial to allow him that, or at the very, very least, to have discussed what was allowed with him. Though this is a bit of IC OOC manipulation, in book, if the people you are role playing with don't end up having fun too, then the experience was a failed one.
In the opposite direction, (I can't really think of a good example for this, somebody feel free to chime in,) trying to shut down a role play that involves violence (negating a situation where someone is trying to force participation) is equally disrespectful. Someone has put time and effort and yes, probably quite a bit of thought into it, and a dissonance of voices speaking against it, merely with the words that they don't like it from an outside perspective, not having participated, is just as disheartening. I've seen it happen in bits and pieces, and I'm sure it's something that must have occurred before this lil nooby came onto the scene.
I have to say there is one restriction I do put on myself. I certainly wouldn't say anyone else would have to, but I feel I don't have the right to critique something too narrowly if I do not know all that which is involved. (I read through Twilight just so I could positively say in my view that it's a crock of ever loving cow sh....) <.< >.> ANYWAY. To try to label anything as flat without actually looking at it with any resemblance of closeness is to deeply discourage the person who put time and effort into it. Ultimately, I believe it's something that should be avoided. That isn't to say that people cannot make statements upon how they personally believe it could be improved, or how it is affecting them negatively to negotiate a solution, but you mustn't judge a book by its dilapidated leather cover.