ok, I\'ve been back here laughing about how much you guys really don\'t know about girls, and my wife came over and started reading over my shoulder...
here\'s what she has to say
Dani:Alright, listen up. This is an ACTUAL GIRL poking her head in here. Isn\'t that amazing? I have to say one thing, only a few of you know how to get a female\'s attention. Why do girls flirt with guys and then turn them down?
Let me explain that one in a way i think you guys can understand it. You are guys. Rooha. We are girls. YAY! We use words. . .you use actions. You want laying. . .WE want PLAYING. You guys like to see things, we girls like to IMAGINE things. Besides, flirting is fun.
Karath, being with a girl forever isn\'t neccesarily a bad thing, but being 15 and having a *clasps hand to chest dramatically* \"one true forever kind of love\" now adays is just hard to do. A Romeo and Juliet kind of love. Not that it can\'t be done, just you might want to wait a while before settling. You might know what you want in a woman, but ten to one, when it comes down to it, you aren\'t going to settle with the one you think you will. Dating is all about learning what you like and learning to adapt your thinking to different situations.
Now. . . about those \'zines. We females (and some guys for that matter) read them for a few reasons. One. . .to see all the funny/ebarrassing positions we can get ourselves into, for advice on make up and clothes, and lastly (very lastly) for the sex/ dating advice. The \'zines say guys don\'t notice all the \"signs\" of scoping. I guess they haven\'t been here. I\'m glad I\'ve always been the type of girl who\'d always just walk up to the guy and flirt heavily and have him panting.
Ok, now onto the advice, from a girl\'s point of view.
1.) Do NOT treat us like all you are after is a quick go and then run off.
2.) Most of us love something funny. I like the sand idea. Any girl that you can laugh with is a good deal, cause then all your mistakes/everyday goof ups become easier to deal with through humor.
3.) Don\'t be overeager, cause that makes you look like a stalker, or worse yet, desperate, but don\'t play it too cool, or we think you\'re not interested and we give up.
4.) Smile like you mean it.
5.) FLIRT BACK
6.) If hilarity doesn\'t work, just wait till we go to the bathroom and leave a little something on our beach towel (nothing gross, mind you, just something like an inexpensive watch, or a seashell or a FLOWER) just something that\'ll catch our attention and have your number under it. That makes us wonder who the hell you are so we get interested and call you.
7.) If all else fails, do something super wild and hire a minstrel to follow you around and sing insane songs about you wanting a date. that\'ll catch someone\'s attention. (j/k unless you REALLY want to try it.)
Remember, there is no shame in having a relationship not work. It just helps you learn what you need to work on yourself when the next one comes along.
And Now.. . .back to the show!
