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Fan Area => The Hydlaa Plaza => Topic started by: WiseKran on November 04, 2006, 07:27:02 am
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So I've been hitting on this one girl for a while now, always liked her.
and I finally asked her to the semi formal, it seemed like it was going to work out, heh. but girls.. She hit me with one of those "I promised my friends id be going with them, thank you so much for the offer though"
I guess i just have to take that as a thanks but no thanks. heh. I feel empty now though.
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Welcome to the very lonely club and somewhat depressed club. We have t-shirts.
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Oh ohh I volunteer to do t-shirt design!!
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You're married. Go away.
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I'm guessing you're still in high school. Trust me, it's much much better once you get to college. Once they get away from their parents, girls go crazy. I don't pretend to understand it...but I'm not complaining.
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So I've been hitting on this one girl for a while now, always liked her.
and I finally asked her to the semi formal, it seemed like it was going to work out, heh. but girls.. She hit me with one of those "I promised my friends id be going with them, thank you so much for the offer though"
I guess i just have to take that as a thanks but no thanks. heh. I feel empty now though.
Maybe you should have talked to her like a human being instead of just hitting on her.
I'm guessing you're still in high school. Trust me, it's much much better once you get to college. Once they get away from their parents, girls go crazy. I don't pretend to understand it...but I'm not complaining.
Uh.... I knew plenty of "crazy" girls while I was in highschool. I know a lot of crazy women in general though.
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He never said he didn't talk to her aswell, Zanzi
And
There are exceptions to every rule. I'm pretty sure Kiern ment more crazy.
Perfectionist :P
And the emptiness will pass, besides, every rejection just makes you more appreciative of acceptance :P
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I'm pretty sure Kiern ment more crazy.
I don't think you have any way of knowing that.
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Hi,
Aye, "no" hurts. Remember though that there's more to life than the opposite sex. In some cases you can even gain more by being just a friend than by being a boyfriend. Finally, I think we're all a bit crazy in one way or another.
And of course... the Burly Men of Hydlaa share your pain.
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Whatever happens, brothers stand united.
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Ok, first of all, she didn't say no. Don't twist words as you desire mate. Though, fill me up with more details and I might help you with some useful advices. I don't understand what you mean by:
I've been hitting on this one girl for a while now, always liked her.
Be more precise. What did you actually do? Because you know, acting like "just another" may put you in that "them" category. It matters so damn much how you speak with the girl, how you behave when you’re with her. Be different than the others, let time flow, don't push things. There's always "tomorrow". Talk nice to her, impress her, blow her mind and she can come under your spell. Even so, all girls are different, but if you’d watch carefully you’ll see that they’re all the same at one point ‘eh.
:innocent:
Also, don’t show her you’re mad about her, mehh, that will just make her distant towards you, slowly but sure. More? Don’t know, waiting for your details...
:D
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You're crazy cherppow XD
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I'm guessing you're still in high school. Trust me, it's much much better once you get to college. Once they get away from their parents, girls go crazy. I don't pretend to understand it...but I'm not complaining.
Aggred... My personal favorites are the female art students :D
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So I've been hitting on this one girl for a while now, always liked her.
and I finally asked her to the semi formal, it seemed like it was going to work out, heh. but girls.. She hit me with one of those "I promised my friends id be going with them, thank you so much for the offer though"
I guess i just have to take that as a thanks but no thanks. heh. I feel empty now though.
I have a T-shirt that can describe this.... it says
"Sh*t happens"
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I'm guessing you're still in high school. Trust me, it's much much better once you get to college. Once they get away from their parents, girls go crazy. I don't pretend to understand it...but I'm not complaining.
so very true ;P
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Heh, I recently was turned down by a female friend of mine (in an nice but honest manner); though ironically it has made me feel a stronger bond to her.
I have a number of friends who are female, but I can't seem to get any closer to any of them. Oh well.
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... Learn how to play guitar, read a book every so often, try to listen first before butting in with your own experiences, and smile. :flowers:
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Always look on the bright side of life (http://www.mwscomp.com/sounds/mp3/brghtsd.mp3) ,mate ;)
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I'm pretty sure Kiern ment more crazy.
I don't think you have any way of knowing that.
Never said I knew it, buddy :P
And I agree with you completely, there is no way of me knowing that.
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Uh.... I knew plenty of "crazy" girls while I was in highschool. I know a lot of crazy women in general though.
Great. Because I was totally talking about YOUR experiences...
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What's with all the advice? I don't think he was looking for advice. Try sympathy. SYMPATHIZE I SAID! :P
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... Learn how to play guitar, read a book every so often, try to listen first before butting in with your own experiences, and smile. :flowers:
Guitar? I'm screwed then. I listen to almost all techno. :P
I'm still working on the whole social-skills thing in general. I seem to be several years behind my fellows in that arena.
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It would be interesting to find out how old the various posters in this thread are...
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I am 18 years of age.
And damn cynical :D
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I am, also, 18.
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Probably could just look at thier profiles, assuming they put it in there. To save you time, mines says I'm 21, but I think it lies. I only feel like I'm 12.
/me will never grow up.
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Uh.... I knew plenty of "crazy" girls while I was in highschool. I know a lot of crazy women in general though.
Great. Because I was totally talking about YOUR experiences...
Actually, you were. You were making a general statement as if it applied to everyone. Therefore, you were talking about my experiences.
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What is it with you, Zanzi?
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17.
edit: ...and Zanzi just happens to be the second most argumentative member of the forums. I think Bilbous is first.
edit2: It's probably just me, or maybe viewing some earlier postings, but he seems to start into combat rather easily.
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... Learn how to play guitar
Arg.. nooooo... people who play guitars just to pick up are sooooo sad. Better to take up the accordion 8)
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Bilbous? First? No way. First would be Seytra or Kiern.
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Don't think you've been back long enough to determine that, Monketh.
I'm not saying Bilbous isn't argumentative, but he's somewhat rational, as well. ;)
Seytra and Kiern aren't argumentative in the sense that they go actively seeking things to argue about in threads that don't require any arguments... Also, they're not around enough to be in the running... I'm still voting Zanzibar, but Datruth is trying hard, too.
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How did I get dragged into this? I wasn't going to touch this with a ten foot pole. Well now that I have I guess I'll let my good friend Lenny whom I have never met talk for me.
and I lift my glass to the Awful Truth
which you can't reveal to the Ears of Youth
except to say it isn't worth a dime
from song "Closing Time"on the album (CD) "The Future"
As far as the other goes I have tried to ... never mind, I don't need to justify anything.
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Uh.... I knew plenty of "crazy" girls while I was in highschool. I know a lot of crazy women in general though.
Great. Because I was totally talking about YOUR experiences...
Actually, you were. You were making a general statement as if it applied to everyone. Therefore, you were talking about my experiences.
No you were the unwritten exception, Zanzibar. You have to learn to read between the lines :P
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And I nominate myself as the least argumentative...
Added to which
Yes
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Bilbous inspires people to argue, but I vote for myself as the most argumentative.
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Can't help but agree with Zanzi on this one
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Move the thread back to the original topic please.
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well as we can see,
she also says no to offtopicness.
:P :whistling: :innocent:
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@WiseKran: You sound to me like you are trying to understand her reaction. Big mistake. You will never understand. You can fool yourself into thinking that you do, but you won't. So let it go. Immediately and without hesitation, ask another girl out. Be agreeable. Agree a lot. Repeat as necessary. Um, 37.
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Eldoth... that was very... disturbing. If that's your outlook on women... yikes...
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@WiseKran: You sound to me like you are trying to understand her reaction. Big mistake. You will never understand. You can fool yourself into thinking that you do, but you won't. So let it go. Immediately and without hesitation, ask another girl out. Be agreeable. Agree a lot. Repeat as necessary. Um, 37.
eventually I suppose. For now though, I cant get her out of my head, and I can't stop comparing other girls to her.
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I suggest becoming a cold, unfeeling jerk who is out of touch with his emotions and perpetually depressed. It's been working like a charm for me... :D
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Moths to a flame, man. Moths to a flame :P
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Who's the moths to what flame now?
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Everyone knows that cold unfeeling jerks get lines of girls after them trying to break through their tough exterior :P
"He's a cold unfeeling jerk."
"I CAN CHANGE HIM :D:D:D"
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Hmm... Doesn't seem to be working for me...
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The guy whose just out for fun is taking the lead right now it seems actualy.
Emo is making emo kids less lucky
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Everyone knows that cold unfeeling jerks get lines of girls after them trying to break through their tough exterior :P
"He's a cold unfeeling jerk."
"I CAN CHANGE HIM :D:D:D"
/me wonders if she is speaking from personal experience with Xordan.
:whistling:
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Everyone knows that cold unfeeling jerks get lines of girls after them trying to break through their tough exterior :P
"He's a cold unfeeling jerk."
"I CAN CHANGE HIM :D:D:D"
/me turns into (more of) a cold unfeeling jerk and waits for the lines. "Come to me ladies, come come!"
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Everyone knows that cold unfeeling jerks get lines of girls after them trying to break through their tough exterior :P
"He's a cold unfeeling jerk."
"I CAN CHANGE HIM :D:D:D"
/me wonders if she is speaking from personal experience with Xordan.
:whistling:
Neko...Xordan is a very good friend of mine...watch what you say.
(and yes, she probably is :P)
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Xordan has nothing that needs changing ;)
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just trying to be funny. even added the smilie to show I didn't really mean it. oh well.
/me shuts up.
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It was funny.
On a separate note: Join the darkside, Neko. It's calling you...
No, I'm not your father.
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Xordan has nothing that needs changing ;)
Yeah, he's almost exactly like me :)
so a few things could use changing, but there is no need :D
On another note. The cold jerk thing is a cop out. Anybody who uses it should be slapped.
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For the record, I wasn't advocating the cold jerk thing as a way to attract women, I was advocating as a way to get over being lonely.
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@phinehas: I chuckled when I read that, Phinehas. Am I really that bad? Ah, damn, I guess I am. Though really, that isn't my outlook on women specifically, more of my outlook on getting on with life and living with oneself when the relationship thing is getting you down. Best thing to do is move on, because sometimes things just don't work out. But -- most of the time -- the reasons why it doesn't are difficult to understand, hard to fathom, and will just plague you incessantly and bring you down. Life is too short. I am rarely single, though, so I guess that is something. Thanks.
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Everyone knows that cold unfeeling jerks get lines of girls after them trying to break through their tough exterior :P
"He's a cold unfeeling jerk."
"I CAN CHANGE HIM :D:D:D"
That's a pretty concise way of putting it, and it's absolutely true.
The cold jerk thing is a cop out. Anybody who uses it should be slapped.
The girls who know me as a "nice guy" become friends of mine who aren't interested in me romantically. The girls who know me as a jerk ask me out to strip clubs.
I don't see it as a good thing, but it is what it is.
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Well that makes more sense. It just seems to me that "You'll never figure 'em out anyway, so just hope." Doesn't seem like sound advice. I can see how it would be very consoling sympathy, but not advice...
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Being a jerk is fine, just not one of the really cold ones who are emoish.
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Advice is a very tricky thing, sometimes consolation is the best route. But I understand what you mean...
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when I get cold, I put on a sweater
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Thank you, Bilbous for that timely and concise advice. Advice in relationships is an entirely different beast though, and often that beast can turn on you. I mean, this is all IMHO, but I wound up with a girl I went to HS with ... almost twenty years after I last saw her. It was just wierd how it worked out. There was no seeming rhyme or reason to it, just a serious of random coincidences that put us back together. So you never know... the important thing really is not to close oneself off from new experiences. If one thing goes bad, make the best of it and keep on trucking.
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The girls who know me as a "nice guy" become friends of mine who aren't interested in my romantically. The girls who know me as a jerk ask me out to strip clubs.
I don't see it as a good thing, but it is what it is.
This is part of what I meant in my earlier statement. I would've never though a girl would want to go to a strip club and hang out there, but since I graduated high school they seem more eager to go then I am...
As far as nice guy syndrome goes I can't really comment on...I've definately never been accused of being too nice. But you can't always be a jerk or it gets old, fast.
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This is part of what I meant in my earlier statement. I would've never though a girl would want to go to a strip club and hang out there, but since I graduated high school they seem more eager to go then I am...
The ones who asked me to such locals were girls I knew in highschool. Since then I've tried to get to know "nicer" girls... and have had worser luck because of it.
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If you find a girl you like, you need to be kind towards her, depending on the type of person she is. Some likes romance, others like dirty hot flirt talk. I'm not saying you should speak like this to get that girl... but that a girl you like probably will get up with you if she likes the way you speak to her, mind it romance, dirty flirt talking. Just watch out that the waterfall you let out won't end up in a bad dark sea of toxic waste which will tear out the rainforest from which the waterfall origins.
Hope you understand this, I'm having difficulties explaining this.
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I must stop this!!! :surrender:
You want a girl now... :flowers:
but then when you get her... believe me... :thumbdown:
you won't want her anymore calling you and shouting because you "forgot" to call her, or argue if you "don't look" her pretty dress.
Sometimes its a nightmare... darn! so much work...
err... hummm... yes dear :-X
Yes... yes, I'm done now...
Ok, don't get mad with me... no, becaus... wait a ... m... no... ok...
yes... ok... yes, dear... ok.
Well, I have to go now...
think about this. ;D
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That's why most of the women I consort with are the type who understand "They do not think like me and they can not, so I should be forgiving (if he is.)"
Maybe I'm lucky, as it is true that I haven't had to really deal with a high-maintainence type.
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Or maybe you just haven't met the right sort of oddballs yet who do think like you ;) That's when things get really fun.
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Ok, seriously.
I'm living with my girlfriend right now, and it's awesome. I'm crash on her!
I was joking (or not) about that mad girls who think the world turns around they... I crossed with one or two... but was just it... a single turn and ... goodbye.
I'm trying to say that you can meet many girls and be rejected many times like an empty bag, but don't despair... the right one will come, and believe me... will be The One.
Silvana... :love: you!!
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Just watch out that the waterfall you let out won't end up in a bad dark sea of toxic waste which will tear out the rainforest from which the waterfall origins.
Hope you understand this, I'm having difficulties explaining this.
I don't think you have any difficulties explaining that. :)
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I would be a fool to pursue her after this right?
Am I suppose to take her commitment to her friends as a nice excuse, and a polite way to say no right?
what other meaning could it have.
I would hate to be one of those mates who cant take a hint.
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Eh. Personally, I would take it as it is. She had prior commitments and didn't want to break them.. There's no point in taking a hint from it that may not be there, although maybe back off a little for a while just in case. Perhaps if she's interested, she will come and ask you somewhere else to make up for it.
But then, I have no experience dating women, so..
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taking a hint is for the weak and not the trendy.
Look at me, I still think Karyuu and Xordan's relationship is just Kary trying to make me jealous :P
Just be there if she changes her mind, don't advance too far on the friend line, but don't dissapear.
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Exactly, be in touch...
Hi, when you cross her in the corridor.
Nice hair! another day.
That's the question... to be AND not to be!
Like said by Nurakh
Just be there if she changes her mind, don't advance too far on the friend line, but don't dissapear.
good luck!
Edit:
Oh! or you can invite her to play Planeshift, you will know her a little more (OOC ovbiously) and you will be always a step ahead, teaching her, and guiding :thumbup:
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Do not listen to these people's advice.
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Advice from forums is useful, I do read what everyone says, and I appreciate responses.
but I take it selectively.
I read it all, I take it all in, and Then I select what information I deem suitable, and what information may be corrupted by too much internet/forum lurking. heh
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Ok, seriously.
I'm living with my girlfriend right now, and it's awesome. I'm crash on her!
I was joking (or not) about that mad girls who think the world turns around they... I crossed with one or two... but was just it... a single turn and ... goodbye.
I'm trying to say that you can meet many girls and be rejected many times like an empty bag, but don't despair... the right one will come, and believe me... will be The One.
Silvana... :love: you!!
I just have to point out that this sounds a lot like Eagel's girlfriend is reading over his shoulder with a rolling pin hovering over his head... :D
Kranny: be careful about advice from people too close to your own age. They're rarely objective as their advice is their opinion, however their opinion is still being worked out since they're still going through what it is they're giving you advice about. It's like asking a runner what the best way is to run a certain race while he's still in the middle of that race. He has no chance for hindsight and contemplation, he's in the midst of it and just trying to do the best he can. I suggest asking advice from someone in the 27 and up range. That's what I do.
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My advice is take a cold shower. or is that a cold shoulder? hopefully it isn't a cold solder but it might be a bold soldier. Hmm maybe taking advice from internet acquaintances isn't the best idea as what works for one person may not work for another and customs differ from place to place and between social strata and age group.
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I just have to point out that this sounds a lot like Eagel's girlfriend is reading over his shoulder with a rolling pin hovering over his head... :D
No... she was working at this time... (also she loves RPG games and introduced me to this wonderful world!)
Kranny: be careful about advice from people too close to your own age. They're rarely objective as their advice is their opinion, however their opinion is still being worked out since they're still going through what it is they're giving you advice about. It's like asking a runner what the best way is to run a certain race while he's still in the middle of that race. He has no chance for hindsight and contemplation, he's in the midst of it and just trying to do the best he can. I suggest asking advice from someone in the 27 and up range. That's what I do.
yes... I'm 30 and were many girls in my life... some cold as ice, some very crazy, and some "very crazy" ;D,
I'm not saying, WiseKran, that you must listen to me... NO. Phinehas has right. Be careful about advices, but I maybe suggest that you should follow your feelings.
Edit: TYPO fixed... :whistling:
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I maybe suggest that you should follow your feelings.
Sometimes that can be the worst thing to do. Emotions should not control us, we should control them.
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Agreed, Phinehas. Life is long... decide in haste, repent in lesiure. Make decisions that are good for yourself first, and you will better serve those you love. Peace.
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Emotions should not control us, we should control them.
Control your emotions always it's so bad than not control them at all... be balanced.
Maybe I miss some words in my previous post because my bad english...
Cursing, yelling, and get angry is bad... I can control that emotions.
Enjoying a kiss or a caress from a girl... I definitely don't control that type of emotions.
It's true that we must have auto-control... but not to the limit to be an insensitive assho.... :@#\
Be balanced...
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Of course, balance is a given, however I tend to think that most people err on the side of giving in to things they may regret later. I've dated only one girl in my life, and I have not regretted it. I know guys who have dated tons of girls and regretted it very much. It's better to have control, but let it go when you feel that it's ok, than to not have control.
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It's better to have control, but let it go when you feel that it's ok, than to not have control.
\\o// I couldn't said that better...
We have a point, now... :thumbup:
sorry If I said something in the wrong way...
me and my bad bad english... who send me to post anyway? ;D
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There is nothin' fair in this world
There is nothin' safe in this world
And there's nothin' sure in this world
And there's nothin' pure in this world
Look for something left in this world
Start again
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"Hey Joe, where you goin with that gun in your hand"....
No wait ... that's not it,
maybe,
"take another piece of my heart, now, baby"
Nope that ain't it.
"Nice day for a white wedding" .... no we heard that already.
"Psycho killer Qu'est que c'est fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa better run run run run run away! oh ohoh oh oh oh oay ay ayayyayyayayay"
What was the question? "I musta got lost I musta got lost I musta got lost somewhere down the line"
umm sorry.
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Time to surrender this thread to the Forum trolls.
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farewell discussion.