IMHO:
zanzi , GK are like any guild , you find there what you bring with you and hey , beein\' abrasive is not THAT frowned upon , depends the way you do it i guess , noone never said me that i\'m too mean for GK and trust me i\'m sometimes really abrasive but...ain\'t the moto : be right , couteous and kind? you just have to put limits to yourself