If you take the time required to read the settings about the death realm, you would understand it's purpose.
The way the DR is now, is simply because if it were developed out to be like it supposed to be, 90%, if not more, of all characters would be stuck there for the simple reason that there are much too many false deaths in the game at this point in its developement. False deaths meaning deaths occuring becuase of bugs, glitches, etc, etc.
We'd have an empty living world, and a full dead world.
Also, making comments such as you have about people's bedroom romping preference are frowned upon. Please refrain from making them.