Well, then wait till you have played for at least a year and then look back on this. If you make it to a year, you might understand better why help is often clipped and older players often don't bother to pat people on the head. Also, you will find more experienced players, whether they still play or not, on IRC. A lot of the players still in game are also new and so IRC is a good way to get in contact with people who have played the game for more than a few months and can help. It is also good because devs and GM can be reached there as well. But if you are a new player you probably don't know all of this so someone has to tell you to look in IRC.

And I don't know about you but I give people credit for having brains, free will and the ability to make their own decisions regardless of whether or not I suggest to leave a game that might be bothersome to them. Funnily enough, all I can do is suggest here. I never crossed into mind control land where I can force people to leave just by mere suggestion.