I know there are strong reasons for this, but this is also problematic in itself. What about those of us who WANT to find these RPs but then never ever stumble onto them, precisely because they are being held in such remote locations?
It's not really ideal, I agree. Let me give an example of how I would do it. I would do any sort of planning for BF activity in the temple or some other well controlled area. This made sense ICly and helped reduce the changes of OOC leaking.
For murders, robberies, crimes etc, they would be done in remote locations or semi-remote locations mainly for IC reasons. For example, you can't bash someone in front of a guard -- from an IC perspective, the guards would own your ass and lock you up. Since there are no GMs to play the guards, you have to just do stuff like this away from them. Some of us would call this respecting the settings.
For all other stuff, I prefer to do things in the open so that others can overhear things, get involved, interdict and so on.
I'm really finding it hard to just blame timezone differences, though I know this is a big factor at least. Another factor
There are a lot less "leaders" playing. Very few people take the lead. Anyone can do it, but few do. I would say that for most, its hard to do for personal reasons such as fear of being criticism, fear of failure or screwing up badly, insecurity about not really knowing how to take the lead, etc. Sometimes the problem is that only the baddies have leaders or only the goodies have leaders.
is that people seem to want to RP with Taya sometimes, but when I ask if I can play an alt instead they lose all interest and don't want to RP anymore.
I don't know about your particular case, but I've seen this quite often. Sometimes its simply because people want to play with well established characters like Taya. Sometimes its because there is less at stake when you use an alt as opposed to your main. The thinking goes like this: "I'm going to risk getting my main in terrible trouble, but you are not putting anything at risk because you are using an alt." I think the best thing to do is to talk to the people in question and find out what their thoughts are on the matter.
I used to have one player come up to me all the time and say, "I have a new alt... want to kill her?" and I'd be like, "No, that's not really interesting." When you play a character a lot and connect it with other characters, it gets tied into the world. It becomes *someone* and when that character is harmed or gains something good, those who are connected to it will react. You don't get this with unconnected alts. Likewise, an alt with no personality or anything is more like a puppet. Does that make sense?
I have now mostly quit RP because of this. I just don't have the energy to invest in wandering round for hours a night and going away dissatisfied almost every time. Even the 'tavern RP' I have found is generally flat and unengaging, and believe me, I have tried to persevere with these RPs as well. But in all, it means that the RP I really do enjoy being so hidden is a big factor in pushing me out of the game.
If you ask me, I say plan something. Discuss what you want to RP with others OOCly and then agree to log in at a certain time and place regularly. It's your time and its precious. There's no sense in wasting it. I did that too and got fed up. I don't have 18 hours a day to stand there and wait for others to log in. I'm willing to spend 1 to 3 hours tops if I have that much time.