Author Topic: Remember Qia? Her player will probably die soon, if no help is coming.  (Read 17937 times)

Mrokii

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Hello everyone,

I haven't posted for years on this site and haven't been active in-game as well, but maybe some people still remember my nick (and hopefully not in a too bad manner). Maybe a few might even know my real name, Stephan Huebner, living in Germany. But far more might remember the name "Qia", a players' character I RPed with heavily for some time. "Qia" was also reporting lots of bugs for some time, if I remember correctly.

The player behind Qia (his name is Raven Morris, he's from Canada) has become a good friend of mine and now he's in need of more help than I can provide. He has been ill for many years and it only got more and more severe over time. One big part of his problems are truly severe environmental sensibilities, but there is far more to it, partly caused *by* the ES, but not only.
As it stands at the moment, he is only barely surviving, he used up almost all of his energy to keep up. I'm in real fear that he might die soon if nothing changes substantially. In fact, I am surprised that he still carries on, given the state he had been for so long.

Raven has created a crowdfunding-campaign on IndieGogo to get money for a necessary surgery and many other things he needs to survive. Which he needs *quickly* or it might *really* be the end for him, sadly to say.

Raven also is a father meanwhile, but currently he's unable to care for his baby daughter named Malaika (who seems to have parts of the same environmental sensitivities).

So I'm asking everybody who remembers Qia to help out in any way they can, may it be donating money or goods he needs or by spreading the word or anything else one can think of. I wish nothing more for him than to finally beat his illnesses and can go on with his life and care for his daughter.

Here's the link to his IndieGogo-campaign, which will explain most everything.

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/keep-malaika-smiling/x/824120

If there are any questions, please don't hesitate to ask and I will try to answer them as best as I can or will forward your questions to Raven. Thank you all.

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Re: Remember Qia? Her player will probably die soon, if no help is coming.
« Reply #1 on: August 15, 2014, 10:30:49 am »
You'd find a lot of support on websites like Reddit or Tumblr.
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Re: Remember Qia? Her player will probably die soon, if no help is coming.
« Reply #2 on: August 15, 2014, 11:11:34 am »
@Volki: Unfortunately I'm not very active on either of these sites. I don't even have a tumblr-account, but I will try nevertheless. Thank you for the tip.

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Re: Remember Qia? Her player will probably die soon, if no help is coming.
« Reply #3 on: August 15, 2014, 06:37:40 pm »
I trust that this is a true story and will help a little bit. Hope the player and his daughter will recover to enjoy many years of life.
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« Reply #4 on: August 15, 2014, 09:09:45 pm »
I trust that this is a true story and will help a little bit. Hope the player and his daughter will recover to enjoy many years of life.

@Sen: Thank you. Any amount, in fact any kind of help, means a lot to me and Raven and will hopefully make a difference. If you have further questions, please don't hesitate to ask. If you donate, you'll be able to comment on IndieGogo directly and Raven will answer your questions as soon as he is able to.

In trying to prove that this is for real, I will provide mine and his Facebook-profiles, so you can see that we are real persons and that I have written the truth here (it may be that some of our content is visible to friends only, so send us friend requests if you feel like it).

https://www.facebook.com/stephan.huebner.3
https://www.facebook.com/raven.singularity

Thank you again wholeheartedly.

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« Reply #5 on: August 15, 2014, 09:31:34 pm »
I belive to remember, that you preferred not to say much about your RL. So it's a big thing, that you step out of anonymity in order to help a friend and put this effort in getting help for a friend. That also says something about yourself...
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« Reply #6 on: August 15, 2014, 10:30:33 pm »
It's true, I highly preferred to stay anonymous for most of the time I was active in PS, with only very few people knowing anything about my real self.

It is in part a big thing for me, as I do not like to stand in the spotlight at all. But I think this is more credit than I deserve. I could have done more to help Raven, were it not for the problem that I am dealing with my own demons, which are not caused by physical illness for the most part (besides diabetes) but in my mind.

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« Reply #7 on: August 17, 2014, 01:51:10 am »
I am sorry, but most of this seems like quackery to me. "Environmental Sensibilities" isn't even a proper diagnosis.. Plus, if you check the list of things he wants "colloidal silver, Himalayan rock salt, medical-grade Manuka honey" for your money, I'd be very reluctant to give even a cent for that. Not to mention the air purifiers scream quackery to me.

Another excerpt of his fundraising is:

My unique parenting methods
My style of parenting is based on methods I observed cats using to teach each other in groups.  These techniques maximise curiousity, problem solving, confidence, individuality, physical ability, reflexes, mental focus, and contentment!

I mean. Seriously?

Edit:
In my humble opinion, without wanting to cause offense, this more seems like a case of chronic psychological illness. You can't be that sensitive to everything, it is almost certainly psychosomatic.
« Last Edit: August 17, 2014, 02:07:04 am by Donari Tyndale »

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« Reply #8 on: August 17, 2014, 05:57:52 pm »
Okay, I didn't read any of the link before, but I wanted to try to help Mrokii since I suffer from fibromyalgia, and I happen to be an incredibly altruistic person.

Fibromyalgia is a condition that people mostly associate with old folk (a misconception perpetuated by television commercials). I am a young adult, and many other young adults suffer from this. It is extremely debilitating unmedicated. Even now with medication I can never promise to be somewhere because I don't know if I'll wake up in pain that day. It took ages to be diagnosed and longer to receive medication because the condition is not supposed to affect young people and has a stigma for being psychological. Neither of those are true. I've found that there a lot of people with this condition through the internet, but doctors and the general public don't seem to want to acknowledge that we can have it.

Thing is, environmental sensitivities doesn't seem to have any community, and Canada is the only country to acknowledge it. It seems like a placeholder for another diagnosis. And if he was as sick as he said he was, and he knew he was sick, why would he have a child, and is he divorced as well? Why does he believe he is going to die?

I'm curious why he compares his brain to faulty hardware and then lists possible disorders. Does he think he has all of those or did some shady psychologist diagnose him?

Finally I must ask why he adds so many extraneous costs to the campaign. I thought this was just for a surgery but now it seems like he just doesn't want to work.
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Re: Remember Qia? Her player will probably die soon, if no help is coming.
« Reply #9 on: August 17, 2014, 08:02:14 pm »
Mrokii, I apologize for some of our community. 

I think you are a good friend and his child is absolutely beautiful.  I hope he gets all the help he needs.

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« Reply #10 on: August 17, 2014, 08:29:37 pm »
There's nothing wrong with questioning and debating the authenticity of the claim that this person is genuinely in need. There are lots of scams in circulation and only a fool would throw their money at a cause without first making an attempt to validate it.

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« Reply #11 on: August 17, 2014, 10:29:56 pm »
Mrokii, I apologize for some of our community. 

I think you are a good friend and his child is absolutely beautiful.  I hope he gets all the help he needs.
Just because someone is giving you a sad story doesn't mean you shouldn't look twice. He's asking for our money, after all.

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Also, he is claiming to have had a dissociative personality disorder. I would say that makes it difficult to raise a child with, no?
Also, it just strengthens the claim that perhaps he has an underlying psychosomatic problem for his diseases. Perhaps you can provide us with a proper diagnosis sheet by a doctor, Mrokii?
« Last Edit: August 17, 2014, 10:37:41 pm by Donari Tyndale »

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« Reply #12 on: August 18, 2014, 09:27:57 am »
I understand you're all concerned about giving the money, but I'd rather you thought about how hard you're making this on Mrokii, especially given we're on a public board. You know, it'd be very cool if y'all would be a little more... sensitive. After all, he might be actually ill. Whether psychosomatic or actually physiologically, he needs treatment, the way I see it.

I'm very sorry, Mrokii, my current situation doesn't allow me to make online transferences of any kind... But I sure would help, if I could. I couldn't imagine living in a country where I can't pay for the treatments I need.

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« Reply #13 on: August 18, 2014, 10:06:22 am »
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« Reply #14 on: August 18, 2014, 10:53:39 am »
I am sorry, but most of this seems like quackery to me. "Environmental Sensibilities" isn't even a proper diagnosis..

My mistake. I meant "sensitivities" and as far as I know doctors have confirmed that he has these. It's a fact that Raven can hardly breathe these days which is because of sinuses and throat being clogged by thick mucous all the time, which has lead to a serious infection of the sinuses and his throat (sinusitis). Another factor is a (recently discovered) broken nose (which must have happened when he was a baby). All of this was confirmed by the doctor (an expert for sinusitis) Raven had visited last (they discovered the broken nose via x-rays), including the absolute need for the surgery to correct his sinuses. Without that, he won't stand a chance to get rid of the mucous and in turn the infection, which will most probably only get worse. Raven is *definitely* in a very bad shape and if you could talk to the people he lived with lately they would tell you the same.

Plus, if you check the list of things he wants "colloidal silver, Himalayan rock salt, medical-grade Manuka honey" for your money, I'd be very reluctant to give even a cent for that. Not to mention the air purifiers scream quackery to me.

Actually, the colloidal silver for example is used by many people with success and it *did* help making the infection bearable for Raven for some time. If you'd investigate it, you'd learn that colloidal silver has been used for fighting infections for a long time. Raven had some access as well with the Himalayan Salt, the same goes for visiting some company that provides rooms where people can breath salty air, like near the ocean. Again, this is a therapy that has been used for a *very* long time by people with lung infections and it definitely mad Ravens' condition better a bit. Honestly, to me it sounds as if you should investigate things a bit more before calling something quackery.

I admit, I can't say anything about the honey. That was a tip by somebody only given to him recently.

But that doesn't even matter much, as thei cost for these small things is tiny compared to the main problem, which at the moment is the surgery of his broken nose. If Raven could at least get that done, there is a great possibility that his situation could become much better than it is right now.

How much do you actually know about air purifiers? Raven *did* try cheaper ones and he reacts in a bad way to them or what they produce. There is a good reason for him to try to get one of these very expensive air purifiers. They have been produced for a long time and they are specifically produced for each person, according to their needs and what they react to. I don't see what's quackery about that.[/quote]

My unique parenting methods
My style of parenting is based on methods I observed cats using to teach each other in groups.  These techniques maximise curiousity, problem solving, confidence, individuality, physical ability, reflexes, mental focus, and contentment!

I mean. Seriously?

Ravens' parenting style has absolutely nothing to do with this fundraiser. Plus, from all I heard about others around him, Raven is a great father, whenever he isn't too ill to care for his daughter.

Raven *has* a very unique mind, partly because of some autism traits among other things. But they're not the cause for his medical problems. Plus, Raven does not recommend or ask for something that does not work for him. He's convinced that the medical treatment he's asking for will help him. He had tried out numerous therapies and tips from people and colloidal silver and salt therapy were one of the very few things that actually made his situation a bit better.

In my humble opinion, without wanting to cause offense, this more seems like a case of chronic psychological illness. You can't be that sensitive to everything, it is almost certainly psychosomatic.

That may be true for some of his sensitivities, but that is ultimately something that can't be proven. But his broken nose, which lead to sinus blockage and infection spreading throught his respiratory system are medical facts that absolutely need to be taken care of.

I know from experience in my own family how devastating a clogged throat or damaged lungs can be, due to the low amount of oxygen that is available. It absolutely destroys ones' energy and leaves people bedridden without the power to do anything. From all I've heard from Raven and the people around him over the years I've know him, his condition is absolutely serious and he is absolutely in need of the medical help he asks for.