...Girls...

[tygerwilde]

personally, yes, I feel that the infatuation I felt for her in the beginning is just as strong as ever, I feel the need just to be by her side every day of my life. it\'s like an obsession, but in a good way.

[smoak]

read this thing just today and find it very interesting how it has changed since the original post

karakth, about what you said regarding to parents and brother  you have lived with them all your life and despite arguments and the like are basically forced to get over it because you cant really do any about it and they are permanent. But with girlfriends they dont have that quality, you can get rid of them and many chose to when it gets rough and your not forced to patch up your diferances. also this may or may not help but i am the same age as you said you were


*on a lighter note im suprised you say you have anything more than annoyance and toleration for your brother at your age but maybe its just me dealing with 2 of them

ps- tyger you should show your wife that speech you gave on your next fight

[NewPie]

Ooooo! Tah discussion about ancient evil still continues. I see..

[Tarneth]

Sadly, I\'m more in tune with hatred and the pain from loving and being left for another man... the feeling love isn\'t all that people say it is... it\'s more pain than it\'s worth. And if the girl feels at all wrong, don\'t allow yourself to commit to ANYTHING. Personal advice from a broken man who\'s been there before.

[karakth]

Nah, I love my brother and parents. If ever we do fight, it never lasts longer than half a day and usually it\'s me annoying him, not the other way around

This was my point. If you\'re simply living with someone, you have the option to leave. After all, you\'re just testing the waters, no? In marriage, you cannot leave. You have to stick to whoever you\'re with, unless there\'s devorce in the country which then is just wrong.

A shame about what happened Tarneth. But you should just pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Try and find out why she left you, and see if it is something that maybe you need to change about yourself.

Also. As to my first post, I\'ve found a girl. Sort of. I\'m meeting a girl on weekends and I\'m soon going on a sailing trip with another girl for two weeks. We\'ll be on seperate boats and our families will be there, though. Ah and another thing: she\'s two years younger than me (14). So I\'ve decided I just want to be friends with her. Then again she might be only a year younger than me (It\'s all a matter of birthdays) so...No, just friends. This is so confusing >.<

[TheRedMonk]

Sadly, I\'m more in tune with hatred and the pain from loving and being left for another man... the feeling love isn\'t all that people say it is... it\'s more pain than it\'s worth. And if the girl feels at all wrong, don\'t allow yourself to commit to ANYTHING. Personal advice from a broken man who\'s been there before.

Read this http://www.lyricsfreak.com/s/simon-and-garfunkel/124809.html ...even though its hard to be left by a girl you love, you shouldnt let that stop you from giving other girls a chance.

[TheTaintedSoul]

Karakth i really think youre making it way to hard for yourself. That girl is 2 years younger... so what! At that age girls are usually more mature then boys and the difference in age is not that big.

Also im curious/fascinated about your comment on divorce. What is wrong with breaking up a marriage if the love is gone? If you don\'t all you do is keeping up appearances of something that is long gone and dead. And don\'t forget marriage is an artificial institute after all.

[karakth]

Well if you look at it as an artificial institute...I look at it as a sacred institute. Love is not a feeling, it\'s a decision. If you cannot love someone forever, you have no backbone. The feeling of being \"in love\" can fade. But if love is present, it does not fade. And I love everyone (o/ Or try to anyway

As for that girl...Well, I\'ll just go with the flow and see what happens (after setting boundaries for myself of course).

[TheRedMonk]

I strongly doubt that you will love us forever

[TheTaintedSoul]

Originally posted by karakth
Well if you look at it as an artificial institute...I look at it as a sacred institute. Love is not a feeling, it\'s a decision. If you cannot love someone forever, you have no backbone.

Then thats a difference in background i guess. I just hope you won\'t be dissapointed in the future and get what you hope for.

As for that girl...Well, I\'ll just go with the flow and see what happens (after setting boundaries for myself of course).

Thats a good thing, to wait and see what happen, not expecting something to happen. As long as you don\'t limit yourself to much you can have a enjoying time with the girl or even fall in love, either way its okay.

[Silverblod]

LOL This is great!

BTW I\'m sending both my daughters away for the summer and not telling where.

If they ever come home with a gamer, the blood on the lawn won\'t be pixels. J/K

[derwoodly]

Originally posted by karakth
Well if you look at it as an artificial institute...I look at it as a sacred institute. Love is not a feeling, it\'s a decision. If you cannot love someone forever, you have no backbone. The feeling of being \"in love\" can fade. But if love is present, it does not fade. And I love everyone (o/ Or try to anyway

As for that girl...Well, I\'ll just go with the flow and see what happens (after setting boundaries for myself of course).

Your wise beyond your age Kar.   The only advise I toss in-- is to find yourself before you try and find a soulmate, and don\'t settle for someone who does not share your values.

[TheTaintedSoul]

Originally posted by derwoodly
The only advise I toss in-- is to find yourself before you try and find a soulmate

Unfortunately easier said then done .

* is still looking himself (meaning spends too much time behind computer) *

[Psybur]

[13:26] And how do you greet an intelligent girl you don\'t know anyway?
[13:27]  /greet
[13:27] lol you nerds

Hahahaha, I almost fell out of my chair there.

[karakth]

+++Update+++

It was not decided about whether or not the other family will be coming with us. The parents were all for it, but the children weren\'t sure because they didn\'t really know us.

So today we went together with our boats, to get to know each other. Naturally it was my job to socialise with the kids. The children were as follows:

Girl of 14 (She is only a year younger than me, not two.)
Boy of 12
Girl of 8

First I went snorkeling with the youngest two. At first we didn\'t have any proper conversations but pretty soon we were all diving and pointing out interesting shells/fish/etc.

The older girl did not come swimming. I questioned the youngest girl about it and it resulted in a rather sweet conversation:

Me: Doesn\'t your sister like swimming?
Her: No, the water is to cold for her.
Me: Ah.
-Small pause of about 2 seconds-
Her: My sister is pretty isn\'t she?
Me: *Nod*
Her: If I was a boy, and I wasn\'t her brother, I\'d definitely like her.

The honesty of the young is such a beautiful thing, isn\'t it?

Then we all went to play articulate. The older girl had been rather distant for all this time, but as soon as we started playing the game, she was laughing and enjoying herself greatly.

I suppose I got on best with the youngest one (I always seem to get on well with younger children, possibly because I have as much energy as they do). The boy seemed to like me and accept me as a friend (he seemed impressed by how long I could hold my breath, how deep I could dive, etc). And the eldest girl... Well, I caught her eye a few times.

Hopefully the children will change their minds and come on a three week boat trip willingly. I\'ve decided to be a little \"cool\" with the girl, to avoid things getting messy (i.e. Any of the other siblings thinking that I spend too much time with her, etc).

As to finding myself, I have. I know who I am and I like it. There are certain flawsin my personality which I am working on changing, because I also know who I want myself to be when I finally stop developing.