Here\'s signs of a lasting relationship-
I changed it so it\'s easier to read but its from the H. Norman Wright, Permarital Counseling, rev. ed. 23
A. Adaptability and flexibility: the abiloity and willingness of persons to adjust to change, to accept differences in a partner, and to adapt if necessary. This trait allows people to consider the differeneces, evaulate them, propse alternative solutions, and thren resolves them.
B.) Empathy: A sensitvity to the hurts and needs of others and a willing attempt to see and experience the world from the other person\'s perspective.
C.) Ability to work through problems: The recogoniction of emotions and a willingness to defint he issues and work toward solutions.
D.) Ability to give and recieve love (emotionally): Duh! I need not explain this
E.) Emotional Stability: accepting one\'s emotions, controlling them, and expressing them without tearing down another person.
F.) Communication Ability: learning to talk frequently to one antoher about a wide range of subjects, to convey the feeling that one understands and is sensitive to the other, to keep communication opportunities open, and to express oneself personally, clearly, and at times nonverbally.
G.) Commitment: the willingness to ueiled oneseld to a lifetime of adventure including, risks, joys, and sorrows, plus a commitment to work together even when difficulties, obstacles, and challenges interfere with a smooth relationship.
Essential Similiarities<------------------------------
Intelligence: Not really who smart the person is but intellectually intuned they are.
Values: Have the same family or spiritual values (if you believe in a religion).
Intimacy: Here we refer to the Verbal , nonsexual variety
intimacy. When both people deeply enjoy being intimate with each other and sharing their lives fully, they have an asset that will help them overcome difference throughout their lives.
Interests: Duh! I need not also explain this more
Expectations and roles: Both partners have compatible ideas about their duties and responsibilities in the realationship and household.
BIGGEST MISTAKE MEN MAKE<-------------------------
1.)He doesn\'t listen, gets easily distracted, doesn\'t ask interested or concerned questions.
2.)He takes her feelings literally and corrects her. He thinks she is asking for solutions, so he gives advice.
3.)He minimizes the importance of her feelings and needs.
4.) He listend but then gets angry and blames her for upsetting him or for bringing him down.
5.) When she is upset, he explains why he is right and why she should not be so upset.
6.) After listening he says nothing or just walks away.
