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[Pestilence]

A discussion about how people act around these boards. I have said before I didn\'t feel these boards to be as accepting as they could/should be. A lost of people are getting bashed without much reason besides thinking something the other doesn\'t like.

Some here seem to have an opinion of how things are supposed to be and can\'t accept if someone else doesn\'t feel the same way or even isn\'t sure it\'s supposed to be that way.

I personally like to ask everyone to please give people a chance. Just becuase they don\'t look on what PS will be in the end or what PS is at the moment doesn\'t make their opinion less worthy then your own.

Listen to what someone has to say and please try to find the good in what the other is saying. Even if this is hard sometimes. And mods and GMs please give the right example by showing this to other and to moderate the posts clearly ment to bash someone without really listening.

[Kiern]

I think the problem is people who are too emotionally attached to the board and what people say on it.

Originally posted by Pestilence
GMs please give the right example by showing this to other and to moderate the posts clearly ment to bash someone without really listening.

Once more, GMs have no power on the forums.

Thanks for the lecture, though.  Come here and give me a hug.

Sorry...I can only go to extremes.

[Karyuu]

You can\'t get rid of cynicism, sarcasm, or jesting arrogance, without often getting rid of someone\'s personality ;) I think a board of happy-go-lucky-all-smiles posts and threads is the stuff of nightmares. If someone can\'t take a little light-hearted poking to their ego, they\'re in need of a stronger backbone. I can understand people pouncing on each other during a heated debate over a heated issue (names, anyone?), but that is to be expected. Otherwise, I can\'t say that these forums are in a bad situation, minus the influx of repeated threads of repeated newbie questions and suggestions. What I\'ve seen more often were older members of the forums complaining that today the standards for behavior are too strict.

I think you need to lighten up, personally, Pestilence ;) It\'s good to remind everyone that red horns should not be exposed at all times, but it\'s unrealistic to ask everyone to grow angel wings.

[Jonalber]

Originally posted by Karyuu
I think a board of happy-go-lucky-all-smiles posts and threads is the stuff of nightmares...

Wow - sucks to be you.  But I\'ll add a wink and it\'ll make you feel better  

Originally posted by Karyuu
...I think you need to lighten up, personally, Pestilence ... angel wings.

Then again - this might be what he\'s talk\'n about.

I agree with Pestilence - this board isn\'t as friendly as others I\'ve used.

[Karyuu]

Originally posted by Jonalber
Wow - sucks to be you.  But I\'ll add a wink and it\'ll make you feel better  ;)

Aw, baby, for me? You shouldn\'t have. I\'m so flattered! You know what, I feel like I should return the favor. Catch!

Then again - this might be what he\'s talk\'n about.

I highly doubt such a thread will change anyone\'s behavior :P

[Kiern]

Originally posted by Karyuu
I highly doubt such a thread will change anyone\'s behavior

What are you saying?!?  I\'m a changed man.

How shall I serve thee, mastah?  Your thanks is not needed here.  Please, walk all over me.  No no, leave the heels on.

[acraig]

[Externals]

Guys, im sure what Pestilence is trying to imply here is that people are just not \"as\" friendly as on other forums. Basically, the people here on PS have a set mind on what kind of game they want it to be. Mostly everyone but the noobies want it to be pure RPing and some want a bit more action and this and that. IMO, im completly with Pestilence because if people dont like the other comments or threads, they could be a tad nicer and hold their shit back. I mean seriously, people saying... oh well thats not Rping.. or oh, thats too boring and i just want it in the game for other reasons besides Rping. Thats just plain stupid.

[Under the moon]

Karyuu, acraig, it\'s nice to see the band back together.

[Keyaz]

guess that means i should appear momentarily

[Karyuu]

First, Acraig: that\'s rockin\' :)

Originally posted by Externals
I mean seriously, people saying... oh well thats not Rping.. or oh, thats too boring and i just want it in the game for other reasons besides Rping. Thats just plain stupid.

If I understood your post correctly, you\'re complaining against the going-RP-all-the-way-because-it-comes-first mentality. Well guess what, that\'s the way it should be and hopefully will be. Because RP is indeed the number one priority, so everything else needs to come later. If you\'re here for other reasons, heck, you\'re free to enjoy everything Planeshift has to offer. No one is going to kick you out if you\'re not being disruptive. But the main purpose of PS is roleplay, so if you\'re doing something else... You catch my drift ;)

No further argument needed, I believe.

[Externals]

i wasnt inquireing anything else. We can leave it at that.

[ramlambmoo]

First off, I think perhaps you should just lighten up a bit.  People enjoy having discussions.  Certaintly when I compare these forums to other forums where I \"discuss\" things, the people here would have to be some of the most mature and sensible ones I\'ve come across.  Of course, there are always people who act stupid and start things like flame wars etc, but they\'re not going to change because of a topic like this.  Pretty much all most people can do is concentrate on their own behavior and try to influence people by their own maturity.

Some here seem to have an opinion of how things are supposed to be and can\'t accept if someone else doesn\'t feel the same way or even isn\'t sure it\'s supposed to be that way.

Yes, well alot of people are like that in real life too.  I dont see any feasible way to change peoples behavior in regard to that.

[Pestilence]

Don\'t get me wrong.

I don\'t mind a good discussion. I have been known to engage in discusions myself and can be pretty brutal when I am, but I think there is a difference between a discusion as to a bashing.

If it\'s 10 to one it\'s no longer a discussion if the 1 is also a newbie. Also a discussion means that people listen to eachother and try to respect the others opinion. Does this mean lay down and take a beating? No but it doesn\'t mean you have to start one either. Ofcourse defend yourself, but I think everyone here knows I\'m not talking about posts where people defend themselves.

As I said I think one should look for the good in ones post instead of the bad. And perhaps not all GMs are moderators here, but I do feel if they accept such a role their role should be one of example.

[zanzibar]

Originally posted by Karyuu
You can\'t get rid of cynicism, sarcasm, or jesting arrogance, without often getting rid of someone\'s personality I think a board of happy-go-lucky-all-smiles posts and threads is the stuff of nightmares. If someone can\'t take a little light-hearted poking to their ego, they\'re in need of a stronger backbone. I can understand people pouncing on each other during a heated debate over a heated issue (names, anyone?), but that is to be expected. Otherwise, I can\'t say that these forums are in a bad situation, minus the influx of repeated threads of repeated newbie questions and suggestions. What I\'ve seen more often were older members of the forums complaining that today the standards for behavior are too strict.

I think you need to lighten up, personally, Pestilence It\'s good to remind everyone that red horns should not be exposed at all times, but it\'s unrealistic to ask everyone to grow angel wings.

I think you\'re missing it.  People on these boards go out of their way to flame eachother over nothing.  We\'re not talking about heated debates.  We\'re talking about people being insulting for no reason at all.