Alright, so shall I explain my dilemma? Here goes, It all started on a hot summer day... oh wait this isn't supposed to be a story

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I've have recently, after some time of work, Installed Planeshift, and succeded in updating it. After getting over some graphical issues, by using the very useful knowledge of the stickied threads

, I found a new problem. Every time I log in to the server I cannot stay logged in for more than about 2 minutes, after which i get a sever not responding message. This makes it impossible to make a customised character.
Is server not responding message my own problem, or a problem of the servers? I've already guessed it to be the server's problem but it's still happening after 3 days.
Also, while i go through the process of making a character some of the lists are itemless, so i have no choices, and I'm forced to log in and out several times to get them all to work properly

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I've been reluctant to request help on the forums, but seeing as how I've run out of options, I decided the time has come to ask if anyone has an antidote to my problems.
If it helps here are my specs:
Operating System~Windows XP
Processor~AMD Sempron 3000+ 2 GHz
Graphics Card~NVIDIA GeForce4 MX 440
RAM~ 512 MB
Connection~DSL
I've read somewhat on something about enabling udp port 7777, but me, being not router savvy, am not sure I've enabled the port correctly. But, since I am able to connect for about 2 minutes each time, is that even necessarily the problem?
Thanks for any help you can offer and great game you've made here

. (If I make a quick character instead of custom i can get into game, but still have a limited amount of time so yea didn't want to leave that out.)