Couple things: First, Ara, would you give kudos if a creative use of mechanics had stripped your guildhouse clean? Or done something that you personally felt insulted by (I realize that a wedding massacre is fine with you, just asking you to use your imagination and find a situation where a creative use of mechanics would upset you, then you may understand Roled's postion, or mine or anyone who found the incident ridiculous).
Second, I have argued the other side of this fence before, that in this land everything (almost) can happen, and so you have to learn to roll with unexpected acts/actions, and your ability to do that easily is a mark of a very strong immersive ability. But I've noticed that many rps don't desire this kind of disruption and furthermore cannot withstand it.
Example: I was on an alt at the Bronze Doors fortress. Doing quests which were taking ages. During this time, a group of people were out on the eagle head. The group was Caraick, Mariana, Teshia, Marsu. It became clear to me later from reading Car's story in the forum, that this was Marsu's swan song.
At the time I just noticed that they were taking ages out there, that the big Diaboli Marsu was moving closer to the edge of the eagle, and that there were tears and pleas and lots of drama. Fine. I always jump off the eagle head to come home to Hydlaa. I "hurried past the small group looking severely agitated" and threw myself off the edge.
I ended up stuck in the waterfall, unstuck myself and was back up near them, and they were reacting to my intrusion (I believe Car/Marsu ignored it). My point here is WHAT IF I had been able to make creative use of mechanics to kill Marsu as I leapt, to push him off, or to kill Mariana/Tesh/Car so that he had no spectators. I realize that these players probably wouldn't have fallen for any mechanics abuse that I could have offerred, but let's say they were more newbish and they did. I promise you that there would have been strong feelings against me for such an act, precisely because that rp had a clear purpose, to end Car's evil char in a good and yet nebulous way, and to bring some resolution to other rps touching on Marsu (Mariana and that fellow she loved, Er-someone).
Even if my acts were ig legal, it makes total sense that the rp group would be pissed with me and wouldn't play with me ever again. Because that kind of action (regardless of my intent, of my char's background, of my guild who is plotting a takeover and subjugation of the whole realm and killing this group just the beginning of our scheme) can ruin rps. Yes, Marsu could have come back from the dead, run back up to the fortress, posed at the edge again all drama, Teshia could start weeping again Car holding hands being the rock etc. etc. etc. BUT it pops you out of the experience and the game.
My whole point really is - try to put yourself in the other person's shoes, try to think of a rp that YOU would be upset about were it to be turned from a serene ceremony to a bloodbath and then moderate your own comments here.
Good things that came out of this: Group mechanics won't be abused in the same way. And people know who to rp with and who not to rp with. For those who think this was a clever rp and perfectly acceptable, have at it. For those who thought it was pretty stupid (lol, that's me), then ignore those critters (the stillwater peace corps). I have to admit, even though I think it's darling that Solo is going around killing all of them, that them sitting at the plat mine and taunting people to come near it, is infantile to the nth degree (n->infinity) and cracks me up. It is so stupid that I really like it.
Sorry for the tome

Hushing.